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Financial Advice for Young Married Couples

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:34:27 +0000

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Mention unfaithfulness in a marriage and more then likely your thoughts will focus on sexual relationships. Yet over 50% of divorces are not at all related to sexual unfaithfulness but rather financial unfaithfulness. In today’s debt ridden society, the face of unfaithfulness is financial and divorces are happening much more repeatedly as a result of uncovered financial secrets. More often then not, women are financially unfaithful compared to men however financial unfaithfulness is wide ranging and will annihilate a marriage as quickly as sexual unfaithfulness.

Young married couples and debt are common however, they also form a cocktail for marital ruin. Often with a young married couple, one of the partners will hide certain financial things to prevent confrontations and getting help. As soon as the unfaithfulness begins, it usually does not stop until it hits the point of no return. At this point, financial debts become too big to hide and either the partner will reluctantly bring it up or the other partner will discover it on their own, which will bring with it feelings of great frustration, bitterness and often is the beginning of the end for the marriage, especially if professional help is not seeked out immediately.

Men seem to be less apt to handle the financial unfaithfulness then women and when it is discovered that their spouse has been financially unfaithful then a battle will often begin. So what is a young married couple to do to avoid this disaster?

Be accountable to one another and help each other prepare and maintain a budget. When only one spouse has their hand in control of the cookie jar, temptation can often cause for the hand to dip in more then its fair share. This can often start out innocently but quickly grows into a problem while the other partner sits by innocently unaware of the financial burden that is starting.

If a young couple is set on only having one person in control of the budget, that is fine however it is wise to site together once every week and review the income and expenses and allow for open questions and answers. This will provide that additional step of accountability that is often more then enough to keep the temptation of financial unfaithfulness at bay.

Marital problems that are caused from a lack of financial maturity do cause many best friends to become bitter enemies and in any marriage, it can certainly be the brutal destruction of the foundation for which it stands. If you are hiding financial problems from your spouse, come clean with them immediately and seek out financial guidance. If you are not sharing the budget responsibly currently, then start.

Find a Russian Wife, Ukrainian Wife, Russian Bride or Ukrainian Bride

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:32:57 +0000

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Why Marry a Russian or Ukrainian Woman?

Many men in the US and other countries venture into the unknown world of Russia, the Ukraine and other East Block countries to find their Russian bride or Ukrainian wife. Many of these women still hold the traditional notion of success for them to be defined by having a family and a loving husband. Over the years this has become harder and harder to find in the West, as woman in the West has taken on their corporate roles and deviated from the traditional values that so many men… still today… desire in their wives, but find it hard to find in the West.

It does not only stop there. Women from the East love to take care of themselves, their children and their family. I can say this from personal experience that I see in my wife, how she puts hours of effort into taking care of herself, just as she does for taking care of our child. But most importantly, she loves doing it! There is a beautiful union when East meets West in a marriage. Men from the West knows how to provide of a family and they love playing the role that a man can play in the traditional sense of a husband… while Russian wives, seamlessly blend into the role of supporting her husband while taking care of the family with her tenderness and loving heart.

Another reason many men seek out to marry a women from the Ukraine, Russia, Belarus, Latvia or other East Block countries, are the level of commitment men get from these women. Once you meet a Russian lady and you have mutually confirmed your love for each other, you will have zero doubt about weather she is “with you” or not. There is an undeniable level of commitment that you WILL experience with them, something so unique. Just as regular long distance relationships, International Relationships lend themselves to similar challenges initially, but because you two will find a very deep and exotic love in each other, you will commit to do whatever it takes to “be together”. This creates a very intimate commitment that expands love to a new level. Because you will have to go through an immigration process in order to get her a visa prior to her coming over to your country, this will make things extra difficult… but also extra intimate and this by itself is an expression of the unique and powerful commitment Russian women and Ukrainian wives have.

Find Russian Women or a Ukrainian Wife – Where?

Prior to the internet men all over the world have corresponded by postal mail with their Russian darlings abroad. Now the internet has made this so much easier. As you will go through the process of finding your Ukrainian or Russian wife abroad, you will surf the net and be inundated with thousands of women and hundreds of different services. Some services charge around $3000-$6000 for what is referred to as a “Romance Tour”. I suggest to all my clients to stay clear from these “romance traps”. These services usually will introduce you to hundreds of women in a night club setting and you can forget about any personal attention to what “you” want to see in your wife. In addition most of these services will introduce you to women in “large cities”, which from my experience is not the best choice, but we will discuss this in the next section.

There is no way around it. Meeting your Russian wife or Ukrainian Bride will probably materialize by using a dating agency, or as they are known in the Russian world, “Marriage Agency”. These companies will offer translations services for your email to your girl and they will translate her reply for you from Russian to English again. Although this is a very valuable service, I have to reiterate that the “big” introduction agencies overcharge for this service. Be very aware of this. Most of my clients are very happy with my proposal to use smaller agencies in smaller cities, since they will tailor services towards what you need, thus only paying for what you use… as well as their fees are much more reasonable.

Small city vs. Big City?

Another aspect I encourage my clients to consider it weather they want a wife with small town traditional values or a wife from a big city. I always emphasize to seriously consider small town ladies before big city women. Just as any place in the world, small town women tend to have more traditional values. They tend to have closer knit families as well as much more knowledgeable of how to get by when money is tight. This character aspect can be very beautiful to see, especially since their Western sisters seem to have lost much of this ability over the years.

There is one small drawback to small town (or smaller city) women. It is the flights! Yes, you will find there are much fewer flights to the smaller cities than there is to the major ones. I can find a flight from Dallas to Kiev (Ukraine) for about $500 right now… but from Kiev to Dnepropetrovsk (smaller city in the Ukraine) will cost me about $400 extra. Having said this, by using smaller agencies in smaller cities will be a huge cost saving to you over the durations that you correspond to your future Ukrainian or Russian wife. The visa process could take between 6-12 months, so these correspondence fees and telephone bills can add up.

When do you want a “big city” wife? One of my clients values the intellectual mind of his wife very much. Since his whole family has been in the medical profession and he is also, this simply was very important to him. He wanted a wife that had a Masters Degree in something concrete. So, he ended up marrying a lady from a “big city” with 2 Masters Degrees.

Which Country Should I Look At?

The former USSR states has been divided into 15 independent countries. Of these I really suggest only two countries to my clients: The Ukraine and Latvia. Of cause this should not stop you from looking at others countries if you so choose, but both the Ukraine and Latvia has made great progress in their democratic development as well as their vision to join the European Union. My favorite is the Ukraine, maybe because my wife is from there, but also because it is possible to walk into the Ukraine with your blue American passport without a visa. In order for an American to enter Russia you will need a $200 visa every single time you go and visit your fiancé. You will also see that there is a huge single female population in the Ukraine… larger than in Russia.

In addition, Russia has some talks about revoking the Russian Citizenship of Russian women who marry foreigners. Russia has picked up on their crem-del-a-crem marrying men from abroad and seem to want to take a stand against this. But then again, this might not be important to you.

Immigration

As I mentioned earlier, you will experience a new level of commitment from the women you meet in the East – there is no doubt about this! If you have a “long distance relationship” with someone in your same country, it is difficult, but it is extra difficult for those who have to go through the process of immigration before they can be together. Your love will grow so much stronger over the months, but there will always be a small part of you that will wonder: “What if we do not get her a visa?”. This can be very challenging times, but finding the best legal help OR doing it yourself with 1000% dedication to detail can ensure success in this realm.

The men will be expected to collect many documents for your fiancé. You will be expected to provide copies of your letters, phone records, your bank accounts, etc… just to mention a few. The immigration process is not for the fainthearted, but it will pay back in a life long adventurous journey with your Ukrainian or Russian love.

The Stigma You Will Be Faced With:

Out there in the world there exist a stigma about marrying a Russian women. A stigma about the all so well known phrase “mail order bride”. This concept has been created by the media and is so very touché. The fact of the matter is that the concept of “mail order bride” does not exist. Once you go through the immigration process you will learn how this is NOT “anything mail order”. For starters immigration requires that you have at least physically met once before applying for your visa. There is nothing instant about this kind of love.

Often my clients are faced resistance from their friends and family because their friends and family simply does not understand the courage it takes to go and find your love abroad. In addition it is honest ignorance from their family and friends who does not understand what it takes to marry a foreign national. YOU STILL NEED TO BE IN LOVE AND LOVE MUTUALLY. There is no way around this. To all my clients I emphasize this over and over and over. It must “feel” right”.

Some men make the mistake to believe that the “love will grow”. If you are not in love when you meet, it is very unlikely it will grow in the future. There are some aspects of finding your love abroad that is exactly the same as dating a local woman and being in love is imperative.

In Closing

Finding your soul mate in the same city as you is difficult. Finding your love abroad, can make certain things much easier, but it introduces other aspects of challenge to the game. Having said that, the happiness can me blissful and ecstatic. A happiness we all deserve.

For Pre Wedding Fun – Try a Stag Do in Cardiff

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:30:41 +0000

Plan your next bachelor party in Cardiff

The capital of Wales is also its party capital – the centre of all things hip and happening. Having stripped away its reputation as a destination to be avoided, you can now find a smashing good time anywhere within the city limits. The place is fun and friendly and the atmosphere resonates with the laughter of its people, proud of their history and culture.

Why a stag do in Cardiff? There are many reasons why your stag do should come to Cardiff. For one, the sporting industry has recently transformed this once cultural haven into an exciting town unrivalled the world over for its enthusiasm and willingness to have a good time (at least that’s what the locals claim – but for the sake of a good time, we’ll believe them). Because of Cardiff, Cup Finals will truly never be the same.

Rock your head to the beat of great music and entertainment and dance the night away in one of Cardiff’s many trendy, adrenaline-pumping nightclubs. Join in the renaissance of this great city and you’ll feel like a new man before you know it.

With over 350 bars and clubs to spend your time in, you’ll never find a moment to spare – which is a good thing when enjoying a stag do or bachelor party with all your closest buds. And don’t forget to head on over to St. Mary Street to rock the night away in front of the castle – an experience difficult to replicate anywhere else.

Join in on the great experience of a rejuvenating city and you won’t be disappointed. Stay away from the usual stag do destinations and come to Cardiff to have a blast and fill your head with tons of fantastic memories. Don’t follow the crowd – create your own path and the party will definitely follow. Cardiff is the perfect place to meet all kinds of people and have a good time without spending all your hard-earned cash.

So in the spirit of Millennium Stadium join the new millennium and participate in all that Cardiff has to offer a stag partygoer such as yourself. When it comes to celebrating your impending marriage no other place provides the best in nightlife, entertainment and activities for such an affordable price.

Forgive For Less Marital Anger

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:29:10 +0000

Stacy’s partner of twelve years does not come home one evening and she knew he was with a former lover. He begged for another chance with Stacy, but her pride and anger held her back. Stacy said she would feel like a fool if she forgave him, even though she still loved him. Stacy didn’t end the relationship, but reminds him daily of what he did to her.

Should Stacy forgive her otherwise good husband for what he did? Of course, only Stacy can make this decision.

Fact is, most marriages cannot survive knowledge of an affair, but some do and can even grow stronger in the long run.

Stacy and others who struggle with forgiveness for all kinds of marital offenses (not only affairs) can be helped in their decision by considering the following misconceptions about forgiveness:

MISCONCEPTION #1

Forgiving means that you forget about the offense.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Even though you forgive, you may never forget (and probably shouldn’t) what happened to you.

However, you can tell that you have truly forgiven an offense when you can remember it without experiencing the emotional pain connected with it.

MISCONCEPTION #2

Forgiving means that you are saying what they did was okay.

Quite the opposite. We can still forgive, but see what happened to us as unjust, unfair, or unacceptable.

There are many things that our partners can do to us that we don’t deserve or that violate the contract, covenant, or agreement you have with each other.

Yet, we can forgive by realizing that perhaps they were misguided, or flawed and thus worthy of another chance.

MISCONCEPTION #3

In order to forgive, you need to tell your partner that you forgive them.

Actually, it often backfires if you go up to someone and say “I forgive you,” especially if they see themselves as a victim instead of seeing themselves as someone who warrants forgiveness.

Fact is, forgiveness occurs in your heart— not in the telling someone that you forgive them.

There are exceptions to this, however, and circumstances under which you might want to discuss your forgiveness of them—but only if you think that it will not cause further harm.

For instance, Ruth’s husband asked for her forgiveness following a gambling spree which put the family in financial peril. After one year of rehabilitation and a “clean” record, Ruth told him that she now forgave him.

MISCONCEPTION #4

If you forgive, it means you will trust them again immediately.

Forgiveness and trust are two separate issues. Even after forgiveness, it may take a long time to re-build trust.

To instantly trust your partner again after being violated is not a sign of good mental health or strong self-esteem.

Doing this may also send a message to your partner that they may continue to violate your trust with little fear of actually having to suffer the consequences.

Marital trust must be re-earned after an offense, based on good behavior— not just smooth words or empty promises.

MISCONCEPTION #5

After forgiving, you will automatically feel positive feelings again for your partner.

The opposite of anger is not love. Absence of angry feelings doesn’t necessarily create warm, positive feelings— sometimes it simply creates neutral ones.

In many cases, of course, it is impossible to ever rekindle the love feelings— even after forgiveness. This is common with ex-partners who learn to let go of the

anger connected with the divorce issues, but never love each other again.

MISCONCEPTION #6

Forgiveness occurs all at once.

Not necessarily. Maybe you can start by forgiving maybe 10%—just open the door—and then see how your partner behaves.

After a period of time, you might open the door a little wider and let go of a little more anger until you are truly able to forgive 100%

Four Great Games To Play At Your Next Bridal Shower

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:27:51 +0000

One of the most fun — and occasionally dreaded — parts of a bridal shower are the games. Although they’re meant to be bonding experiences, bridal shower games aren’t for everyone … and if your gal group meets exclusively for cosmos and indie jazz, you might want to skip them.

But the fact is, bridal shower games serve a purpose. No matter how familiar or unsophisticated they might seem, they still serve as icebreakers. And icebreakers are especially useful if your shower combines guests from different walks of life. A shower might toss the bride’s work friends together with her hometown friends and a handful of relatives — and these groups probably don’t know each other — but an icebreaker can bring them together (of course, so can a few chilled bottles of Veuve Clicquot).

So your guest list is a mixed bag of ages, backgrounds, tastes and styles, here are some true-blue games that will bring your shower through with flying colors.

Bridal Shower Bingo

One of the most popular is, of course, Bridal Shower Bingo. To play this game, dream up a list of words for each bingo card that relates to weddings, wedding gifts, the bride herself, or romance. For the cards themselves, arrange a grid of squares in your favorite desktop publisher, placing each word or phrase in its own square. Make the center square “free” (you’re just generous that way). Or just grab some of those no-cost, printable bridal bingo cards from the internet.

Give each guest their own card. Or if you really want to press home the icebreaker effect, get two guests to share one.

Next, print out your word selection with lots of letter spacing so you can cut up the sheet into strips and toss them in a basket.

Finally, have the hostess act as the caller. She’ll pull the words out of the basket and call them out. Once a player gets a complete marked-off line of words, either horizontally, vertically or diagonally, she shouts out “Bingo” (or “Bride”) in return for a prize.

Uncool, you say? Angelina Jolie would never be caught dead playing Bridal Shower Bingo? Maybe, but you’d be surprised how jiggy things get when you turn up the music and start calling out those words. There’s a reason why hundreds of people flock to bingo halls on a weekly basis — it’s freakishly fun. Leave the anthropologists to wonder why, and just roll with it.

Bingo Redux

One of the funniest variations on Bridal Shower Bingo is to give guests blank cards and have them fill it out with predictions of what gifts the bride will get.

Or for another twist, fill your cards with titles of songs relating to love and romance, and then play 10 second snippets from a CD you’ve burned ahead of time. This gives your guests the double challenge of identifying what they’re hearing, and crossing off the titles. Choose a sweet Starbucks-y combo of Cole Porter, Diana Krall, Ray Charles, and obscure Beatles tunes. It’s fun and cool.

Kiss George Clooney

You could also “kiss the groom,” but why not kiss George Clooney instead?

Take a sturdy board, and staple on a men’s shirt and pants combo from the thrift store. Draw in the hands and shoes, and glue on a life-sized printout of George Clooney’s winsome face. Have each guest apply a healthy dose of lipstick. Now blindfold her, turn her around three times, and have her try to kiss George Clooney on the lips. The closest kisser wins a prize (how about an inexpensive autographed photo from the man himself? Try eBay). The rest get to dream.

Lottery Tickets

Fast and simple, not too costly, and who knows? Someone might go home with special memories … to her new penthouse suite. It could happen!

Purse Pursuit

Or try a scavenger hunt — through a purse. In this one, give your guests a list of things you might find in a purse. Guests mark off items for points as they hunt through their purse. Expected items (aspirin, cosmetics, mints) should get a few points. Give higher points for odder objects (tiny airline liquor bottles, a granola bar, crochet hooks, a Canadian coin). Award really high points for random items that might show up in a purse (a rock, toilet paper, chopsticks).

If all this seems too complicated, weigh each purse and hand out a prize to the heaviest handbag — since a gift certificate to an orthopedic specialist probably won’t fit your budget.

Effective Marriage Counseling Advice Online

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:25:54 +0000

In reality, marriage is one of the most difficult tasks to handle. Problems and quirks are normal things to encounter in marriage. However, couples still choose to stay in the bond of marriage so save the holy matrimony. But some couple are not able to handle things well, so they definitely have to seek help from the authorities. Who are these authorities?

One way to seek help is to ask advice from marriage counselors. They are considered the doctors in terms of marriage problems. As you know, marriage is very important especially when there are kids in the family. So it is important to hold on to the relationship.

One among though things to handle is marriage. If a problem arises between the couple, at least one should be concern about how to solve it. One should seek the solution and one among the most effective solution is to seek for advices from the marriage counselors.

It is good for someone in the relationship to be educated about how marriages are handled. One way to educate self is by attending the sessions about marriages. You can also open up you problems so the counselors will give you advices on how you can handle your marriage problem well. You should only listen carefully so you would know how to deal with it correctly.

Marriage counseling is a form of confrontation where in the topic is all about marriage. it is normal for couple to experience difficulties in marriages, this is why counselors are willing to help them with their concerns. Counselors can be a good help to these couples by listening to their problems and giving out advices in which the couple should follow in order to maintain a good and harmonious relationship.

You should also take into consideration the credentials and qualifications of the marriage counselors that you are going to relay your problems on. Of course, to convey trust you must know the background of your counselors. From this you will know that the counselor you will be handing over your problems are professional and will sure help you with your marriage problems.

You can also look for counselors that give free marriages advices. There are many marriage counselors online can help you with your concern but will not ask anything from you.

The online marriage counselors will also discuss to you the different traditional arguments about marriage. if you cannot afford to pay for a therapist, you can use online marriage counseling to solve your problems with marriage. the only problem with this is the lack of live activities.

Online marriage counseling is very new in the net, so regulation should be established first. However, it can be a great help for those who want to seek for help but do not have much budget to spend. Everyone with marriage problems can log on to the particular site and seek help.

Counseling is one of the effective ways to save marriages. Free online marriage counseling is made available for you so you do not have to worry about paying dollars on therapist just to help you seek solutions to your marriage problem. The important thing is the self involvement. You should have faith and be patience to live a happy married life.

Fresh Flowers and Anniversary Flowers

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:24:05 +0000

For thousands of years meanings have been attached to flowers by many different cultures, with some of those meanings still being considered relevant today. Though the most important meaning is the thought behind each floral gift, flowers selected for their traditional symbolism and historical significance can speak to the recipient in a special way. In anniversary flowers, this tradition is taken even further by assigning particular flowers to each year of marriage. Though flower meanings vary from culture to culture and source to source, here are a few favorite flower choices for anniversaries to help you express your love throughout the years.

1st anniversary

Pansies – Thought, remembrance

Carnation – Joy, commitment, admiration (red), purity (white), never forget (pink)

2nd anniversary

Cosmos – Modesty

Lily of the Valley – Happiness, purity of heart, humility, devotion

3rd anniversary

Fuschia – Taste

Sunflower – Strength, warmth, nourishment. Signifies a ‘Devout admirer’

4th anniversary

Geranium – Comfort, gentility

Hydrangea – Gratefulness, pride, appreciation

5th anniversary

Daisy – Innocence, loyal love, ‘I’ll never tell’, purity. ‘You have as many virtues as this flower has petals’

6th anniversary

Calla/Calla Lilies – Magnificent beauty, transition, growth

7th anniversary

Freesia – Trust, fidelity, honorable love. The antidote to the proverbial thought that the seventh year brings restlessness

8th anniversary

Clematis – Clever, intellectual

Lilac – ‘The emotions of young love’

9th anniversary

Poppy – Imagination

Bird of Paradise – Magnificence, splendor. ‘Celebrating the unexpected side of romance’

10th anniversary

Daffodil – Regard, rebirth, unrequited love, chivalry. ‘You’re the only one’

11th anniversary

Tulip – Elegance, grace. ‘The most romantic of flowers’

Morning Glory – Loves you

12th anniversary

Peony – Good life, happy marriage, prosperity

13th anniversary

Hollyhock – Ambition, fruitfulness

Chrysanthemum -Abundance, loveliness, fidelity

14th anniversary

Orchid – Love, beauty, wisdom, thoughtfulness

15th anniversary

Rose – Love, passion, perfection. Roses have been a symbol of love since ancient times

20th anniversary

Aster – Patience, elegance. Known as the ‘Talisman of Love’

Day Lily – Coquetry

25th anniversary

Iris – Promise, faith, hope, wisdom, valor. Also, ‘My compliments’ and, ‘Your friendship means so much to me’

30th anniversary

Lily – Devotion, pride, beauty

Sweet Pea – Lasting pleasure, blissful pleasure. Also, ‘Thank you for a lovely time’ and, ‘I think of you’

40th anniversary

Nasturtium – Conquest, victory in battle

Gladiolus – Sword. Also, ‘You pierce my heart’

50th anniversary

Yellow Roses – Inner light. ‘The beauty of a long, prosperous marriage’

and Violets – Modesty, faithfulness, virtue, understated beauty

All flowers express love and caring, and some have special meanings to help you convey just the right message. So, whether you choose a particular flower based on its traditional symbolism, a special memory, or just your own personal style, you’re always sure to find a beautiful way to express your love with flowers.

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Dating to Marriage- Make the Transition Online

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:20:42 +0000

Want to get hitched? Try online dating

So, you have finally opened up to the idea of dating online and prospect for a relationship that will blossom into something fruitful, like marriage!

What we have explored up to now is the most important information you need to know. Now, lets dig a little deeper.

Here are some tips for a successful online dating experience.

Use utter special information. Of course, you should be practical in generous out special contact information. But otherwise, give out your likes and dislikes, your interests, and preferred books honestly. Members on the online service may look at your site and disappear uninterested if they see that your profile is just full of Ask Me descriptions and statements.

Okay, you might want to disappear additional information to those interested, but you have to give information on your profile that would show your best attributes.

You might want to add photographs to your profile. Some online sites have audio and videotape features where you can upload your clips. Instead of a dull profile with no movies or videotape or audio clips, why not try these features? It makes your profile personalized and interesting.

When surfing and chatting in an online singles site, you must not be rude or aggressive in your profile. duck also with swear or curse words. People are bowed off by insulting remarks.

Honesty is the best policy. Highlight the best characteristics that you have, but don’t lie.

If you are actually passionate about something, say so. Do not veil the gear that you are very passionate about. If you actually like partying, say so. Pretending to be somebody you are not, won’t help you get a time you like.

If it is available, try the site’s voicemail services. inquiry the speech of a prospective partner is wonderful. You could sense the person’s background by the way they communicate with you.

When somebody sends you an unsigned message, try to answer as quickly as you can. If you are decided in having online dates with the prospect of having fruitful relationships (and hopefully marriage), then you should be decided in replying to messages.

Be patient. You should take your time in decision the great partner, and not only in online services. It takes time for people to enlarge and have decided commitment to each other.

Always think optimistically. Keep thinking the best will happen.

If you are looking for a long-term relationship or marriage through online dating services, memorize that you should be unwearied and honest.

The next time you have questions regarding this subject, you can refer back to this article as a handy guide.

Getting Married in Thailand

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:18:56 +0000

A legal marriage in Thailand consists of both parties registering their marriage in person with the local Thai Amphur (Civil Registry Office). The United States does recognize the validity of such a marriage. For American citizens marrying either Thai citizens or another American citizen, the procedure is the same. For Americans marrying a third-country national, their prospective spouse must also follow a similar procedure with their own embassy.

Procedure

1. Complete an affidavit at the American Embassy. The affidavit form, available upon request, includes all of the information required by relevant Thai law. The form must be completed and notarized at the Embassy.

2. Have the notarized affidavit translated.

3. Take the affidavit and translation to:

Legalization Division

Department of Consular Affairs

Ministry of Foreign Affairs

3rd Floor, 123 Chaeng Wattana Road

Tung Song Hong, Laksi District, Bangkok

Tel:(02) 575-1057-8, Fax:(02) 575-1054

4. Take the affidavit and supporting documents to a local Amphur and register yourselves as married. The Amphur will also require the following documents:

• Your American passport

• If one party is Thai, the Thai citizen’s identification card

• If either party is under the age of twenty, written permission from the parents (with Thai translation);

• If either you or your fiance have been previously married the Amphur will want to see proof that prior marriages have been terminated; either divorce or death certificates. These documents, if available, should be translated into Thai prior to presentation at the Amphur.

Gifts For The Newly Married Couple

orm0 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:16:13 +0000

When you receive a wedding invitation, your first thought is often what to give as a wedding gift. In order to give a gift that the new couple will like, you have to consider some factors about this couple. Since the trend in modern times seems to be that most couples live together, they probably have all the household items that they need. Another trend of modern couples is to register with a wedding registry where they list all the things that they would like to have as wedding gifts. Many guests find that the prices of these items are more than they are prepared to pay and shy away from this method of gift-giving.

Some couples live far away and come back home to get married. The best wedding gift to give in this situation would be money. If you give large gifts, there is every chance that the couple will have difficulty getting all gifts back with them. They may have to purchase extra luggage or pay for extra weight in order to take the gifts back to their permanent residence.

When you do buy appliances, try to buy something unusual. My son was married last year and the list of wedding gifts included 5 coffee percolators, 3 toasters, and 4 irons. The thing that was funny is that neither he nor his wife drink coffee. Luckily, they were able to exchange the appliances at stores for things they did need, even though they had registered with Bed Bath and Beyond.

Money in a card expressing best wishes is always welcomed. The money you give can help to pay the wedding expenses, allow the couple to take a honeymoon or even help them make a down payment on a house. No matter what they use the money for, they will get enjoyment from it.